Wherever You Are…Be Fully There

Here's a post by Tim Stevens of Grainger Community Church. This is something I've thought about for some time. Thanks Tim! You can read Tim's blog here

Wherever You Are…Be Fully There by Tim Stevens July 22, 2010 at 7:19 AM

Teens get a lot of grief about how much time they spend on their phones. I hear adults say, “They never put their phones down!” or “He is texting non-stop!” or “I bet she couldn’t live a day without her phone.” But in truth, teens do what teens see. And I see adults every day who belittle others because of bad phone habits. One day last year I got up before daylight, and spent hours traveling by plane to go across the country for the sole purpose of a one-hour meeting with some leaders for whom I have huge respect. During the meeting, there were several occasions when each of those leaders picked up their phone to read or type. At the same time, they glanced up at me on occasion as I was talking, said “uh huh,” then continued to “thumble” with their phone. I’m not a touchy-feely type of guy, but on that day I felt devalued. I walked away from that meeting purposed in my heart to never do that to anyone. Here are a few habits I appreciate in others and try to put to practice… When you start a meeting, turn your ringer off and move it away from you. If the screen comes to life when you get a text–then put the phone upside down so you won’t see it. If it is likely to vibrate, then put it somewhere it can’t be felt or heard. If your phone does vibrate during the meeting and your guest says, “Go ahead and take that if you need to” — reach down and silence it without even looking. This communicates to your guest that they are very valuable to you. Don’t buy into the “what if there is an emergency?” line. Rarely does that happen. It’s not a good excuse for having to look at your phone multiple times through every meeting. If you know you will need to be reached during the meeting, let your guest know, “My wife is at the doctors office and may need to reach me, so I apologize in advance that I’ll be taking her call when it comes.” That tells your guest this is an exception–you wouldn’t normally do this. If you are in a meeting with multiple people–follow the same rules. Don’t convince yourself that your participation isn’t needed right now so you can disengage and respond to texts or play your next turn in Words With Friends.We fool ourselves into thinking we can multitask, or that our disengagement won’t be noticed for a few minutes. Not true. I’m not saying phones are evil or every time you use your phone you are devaluing others. I’m a heavy smart-phone user. Your phone doesn’t need to be out of sight every time you interact with another human. There are times when I’m sitting around with 5 or 6 friends or family members and every one of us has a phone out. That’s part of the 21st century. I think it can actually enhance the conversation and social interaction. But there are times when you have limited interaction with others when you should be ALL there. It’s about valuing people. And sometimes that means we are looking in their eyes and being fully engaged so we can really listen to their story and hear their heart. Think about it.

Self Definition

On this day 7 years ago, we witnessed the horrendous tragedy that we now call "Nine Eleven". During a time of silent contemplation as I gathered with a number of colleagues in ministry, I was reminded of something I heard in a Charlie Rose interview with Thomas L. Friedman (author of The World Is Flat 3.0: A Brief History of the Twenty-first Century). In that interview Friedman said something like this:

Since that fateful day seven years ago, we as a nation have defined ourselves through the lens of that event rather than through the lens of the "Fourth of July".

This morning I thought that so often even we as individuals get our self-definition from the tragic events of our lives rather than the hope we have in Christ! Lord help us to know who we are in you, and not be defined by the things that happen to us.

What Would Jesus Buy?

Have you heard of Reverend Billy from the "Church of Stop Shopping"? Well there is a movie out for the Christmas Season titled "What would Jesus buy?". The movie is by Morgan Spurlock of "Super Size It" fame and features Reverend Billy and his crusade to recapture Christmas from the clutches of consumerism. Looks like great stuff!



Here is an interview of Morgan by Rick McKinley who is Pastor Imago Dei Community in Portland, Oregon. Good Stuff!



In what ways have you modified your Christmas spending this year? Let's talk!

Reality Church

There is a great post on Dan Kimball's blog entitled "Reality Church".

In an extremely insightful manner he details ten stages many people go through in their church life... from new believer enthusiasm to disillusionment to understanding to a real commitment to Christ and the church.

As a pastor, I have seen this very thing happen and have always tried to be understanding as people experience these stages. I always seek to leave an "open door" finding that many feel the freedom to re-enter life in our local body.

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-dave